Dogs communicate differently from humans, and many behaviours that seem normal to us can be intimidating or even threatening to a dog. Let’s talk about how to help your dog stay calm when someone bends over them.
Your dog may feel cornered, especially if combined with quick movements, stern voices, unfamiliar clothing, or dark clothing.
From a dog’s viewpoint, bending over can mimic a predator looming overhead as it invades their personal space, leaving them with limited options to escape or defend themselves. Adding loose, draping clothing or using quick, unpredictable movements can escalate the fear in your dog.
For some dogs, particularly those with a history of trauma or poor socialization, these situations can start stressful behaviors such as barking, growling, or attempting to flee.
You can help your dog develop the skills and confidence to handle these situations calmly.
Start by practicing calm interactions at home with someone your dog is comfortable with.
- Have the person approach slowly, speaking in a soft and friendly tone.
- Initially, they should crouch down rather than bend directly over the dog, which feels less intimidating.
- Reward your dog with treats and praise when they remain calm.
Over time, increase the intensity of the movements, like standing up fully before crouching or leaning in a tad closer. Gradual exposure will help your dog associate bending movements with positive experiences.
Encourage a safe spot for your dog, such as a bed or mat, where they can retreat if they feel overwhelmed. Train them to go to this safe zone on cue with a command like “place”, “mat” or “bed.”
When visitors arrive, encourage your dog to stay in their safe spot during the welcoming time. Reward them for remaining calm. Over time, this can help them feel secure even when unfamiliar people are nearby. I prefer my dogs to stay in a crate when visitors arrive.
Draping or loose clothing, like scarves, coats, or flowing dresses, can appear strange or alarming to some dogs. Think about introducing your dog to different types of clothing in a controlled setting:
- Allow them to sniff clothing while they’re off the person.
- Gradually have someone wear this or different types of clothing while sitting or standing still, rewarding your dog for calm behavior.
- Progress to gentle movements, such as walking or bending, while keeping the interactions positive.
Explain to your visitors how to approach your dog in a non-threatening manner:
- Encourage them to crouch down to the dog’s level instead of leaning over.
- Have them extend a hand slowly, palm down, and allow the dog to come to them rather than forcing interaction.
- Remind them to avoid sudden movements or loud voices, which can startle your dog.
You can role-play these scenarios with friends or family members before introducing your dog to strangers.
Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool in helping your dog stay calm. Use treats, praise, stroking or a favourite toy to reward them each time they are presented with a potentially intimidating situation without stress. Over time, this will build their confidence and help them associate bending or approaching movements with positive outcomes.
Even with training, your dog might occasionally feel uncomfortable. Learn to recognize your dog’s signs of stress, such as:
- Lip licking or yawning
- Ears pinned back
- Tucked tail
- Avoiding eye contact or trying to move away
If you notice these signs, give your dog space and time to relax because forcing them to interact in a stressful situation can worsen their anxiety.
If you have a puppy, expose them to various people, environments, and situations during its critical socialization period (8–16 weeks). Positive experiences early on can help to prevent fear-based reactions later.
Dogs are highly perceptive to our energy. Stay calm and relaxed during training sessions or interactions, as your dog will mirror your emotions.
Consult a professional trainer or behaviorist if your dog is afraid or aggressive.
Helping your dog feel comfortable when someone bends over them requires patience, consistency, and understanding. By gradually exposing them to the triggers, rewarding positive behavior, and creating a safe and supportive environment, you can build their confidence and ensure they remain calm when these situations happen.
Every dog is unique, so adapt these strategies to suit your pet’s personality and needs. With time and effort, your dog will learn to see bending over as simply another harmless human quirk!
Until next time.
