Dogs are known for their loyalty and affection, but sometimes this devotion can manifest as clinginess or separation anxiety. Let’s talk about some thoughts on how to help a dog who doesn’t want to leave your side.
If your furry friend follows you everywhere, including the bathroom, and becomes distressed when you’re not around, it’s important to tackle this issue. This improves your dog’s well-being and helps you maintain a healthy bond without feeling overwhelmed.
Here are some suggestions on how to help a dog who doesn’t want to leave your side.
Before we start, it’s helpful to understand some possible reasons for your dog’s behaviour.
Dogs with separation anxiety fear being left alone. They may bark, whine, or destroy items when you’re out of sight.
Some breeds are naturally more attached to their owners.
Dogs who have experienced neglect or abandonment may cling to their owners for reassurance.
Illness or discomfort can cause dogs to seek constant companionship. It is a wise move to rule out medical concerns with your vet.
A recent move or lifestyle change can make your dog feel insecure.
You may be nodding your head with the above!
If your dog struggles to leave your side, implementing the following suggestions can help them feel more secure and independent.
Training your dog with basic commands like “sit,” “stay,” and “down” builds their confidence and encourages them to focus on tasks rather than your presence. Reward them with treats, soft pats, praise, or toys to reinforce positive behaviour. Tell them how clever they are!
Example Exercise:
Place your dog in a “stay” position in one room while you move to another. Gradually increase the time and distance before rewarding them for staying calm.
Provide a designated area, such as a cozy crate, bed, or a specific room, where your dog can relax. Add comforting items like their favourite blanket, toys, and even a piece of your clothing that smells like you.
Introduce the space calmly and happily. Place treats or toys inside to encourage your dog to explore and use their crate independently.
Help your dog get used to being alone by practicing short absences. Start with a few minutes and slowly extend the duration. During this time, avoid making a big fuss when leaving or returning, as this can heighten their anxiety. Think about
shutting the door as you leave a room and returning calmly without acknowledging your dog. These absences are helping your dog know that you will return at some stage.
Clinginess could be linked to boredom or a lack of stimulation. Keeping your dog active and entertained can reduce their need for constant attention.
Activities to Try:
Daily Walks: Exercise releases pent-up energy and keeps your dog physically fit.
Puzzle Toys: These challenge your dog’s problem-solving skills and keep them engaged.
Interactive Games: Games like fetch or hide-and-seek encourage independent play.
Encourage your dog to spend time alone by providing activities they can enjoy without you. Stuff a treat-dispensing toy with frozen meat or kibble and let them work on it while you’re in another room.
Praise them when they stay calm in another room. Gradual reinforcement teaches them that being alone is not a bad thing.
If your dog’s behaviour doesn’t improve or if they exhibit severe separation anxiety, consult a professional dog trainer or behaviourist who could develop a personalized plan to address your dog’s specific needs.
A veterinary check-up is essential if your dog’s clinginess suddenly increases or is accompanied by signs of illness (like lethargy or appetite loss).
Don’t Punish your dog, scolding your dog for their clingy behaviour can worsen their anxiety and damage your bond.
Remember, constantly giving in to their demands for attention reinforces clingy behaviour.
Helping your dog become more independent takes time and patience.
While it’s heartwarming to have a dog who adores you, helping them build confidence and independence benefits both of you. Your dog will feel secure and content, while you’ll enjoy a stronger and healthier relationship.
Helping a dog who doesn’t want to leave your side is all about fostering their independence while reassuring them of your love. Through training, creating a safe space, gradual separation, and plenty of mental and physical stimulation, you can help your furry friend thrive. Patience and consistency are key, so take it one step at a time.
With effort, you can help transform your dog into a confident, well-adjusted pup who’s happy both by your side and on their own.
Until next time,
